the fallacies of new-age communications

after hearing of a few relationships that have been developed from students of different universities, i've realized a few new communication facets that only exist to my generation now.

1.  Texting as a means to converse RATHER THAN vocally conversing.

the issue/ problem with this:  the fact that, as we've learned in class, that texting, just like internet dating, can be too deceptive due to its ability to mask who we really are.  take for instance this example of a conversation i had with a girl friend of mine,

girl: ya, he's funny (odd) bc he always says the sweetest things in his texts to me when we converse everynight via texting, but i don't like it nor trust it anymore bc he never says those genuine, sweet things when we're together, face-to-face.  So it makes me feel like he's just able to say it through text and is actually afraid to be that genuine with me.

This type of conversing seperates the men from the boys, bc any boy can be sweet through a text because it acts as a masking mechanism, but a man will tell the girl how he feels to her face, let alone open the door for her (if he has any manners at all).

2.  Internet dating as a means to converse RATHER THAN actually go on a date

issue/problem:  as we see in the reading, that to compensate for lack of non-verbal communication, tone, pitch, laughter, gaze, gesturing, etc--all the things that make going on a date or out to coffee fun---these things are all lost when online with another, unless ofcourse, you've interacted with this person face-to-face.  But, due to this loss of "intimacy" with the other person, our reading states that people have to be more warm and inviting through their words than would otherwise need be.  This too, creates a type of masking, or misrepresentation of the truth of whom the sender and receiver.

3.  Avatars--simple problem = dumb. simple solution = get a life and go be with REAL PEOPLE IN REAL LIFE.